Divorce is a journey that is incredibly challenging and emotionally draining. In the initial stages of separation, friends and loved ones often rally around, offering support, helping with practicalities like school runs and meals, and lending a shoulder to cry on. But what many don't realize is that even when the divorce papers are signed, it doesn't necessarily mark the end of the road. For some, it's just the beginning of a new kind of struggle.
I know this first-hand because, like many of you, I found myself in the "in-between" phase after divorce. It's that period where you have the divorce decree in hand, but there are still unresolved legal battles, property settlements, and complex co-parenting arrangements that linger on. It can be an emotionally and financially taxing time, and it's something I grapple with week after week, month after month.
It's essential for us to acknowledge and understand this often-overlooked phase of divorce. The "in-between" stage can be protracted, filled with uncertainty, and just as emotionally draining as the initial separation. It's a lonely place, and many people don't realize that the battle isn't over when the divorce is finalized.
I see you, and I want you to know that you're not alone. If you're in this interim period, it's okay to take your time and heal at your own pace. Freedom is on the horizon, but it might take a bit longer than you anticipated. The "in-between" stage can be isolating, and people might not understand that you're still dealing with the aftermath of your divorce. Some may even question why you're not dating yet, as if moving on is that simple. But the truth is, you're not free yet, and it's okay to prioritize your healing and well-being.
Keep moving forward with me, take it one step at a time, and know that brighter days are ahead.
With empathy and support,
Susannah xx